Words FAIL me.TOO MANY attempts made to "write a note". Some things are better left unsaid. Some words are better left unspoken.
But, really?You think its better that way?
Uno: Let Go or Lets Go? :)
Lately I have been spending a lot of my time with MY girls (YES, thats how PRECIOUS you girls are to me)(Tuaran,Suxx Alam, KL, Upperstar,Kudat,Frenz,Yoyo,Rombengan,Lunch dates,bbq..and the list continues) picking apart the lessons life has taught us.. I'm sure they are sick of hearing about my issues, but they continue to stand by me and listen to my incessant and probably pointless rantings - after all, they are quite possibly the most amazing bunch of females in my life. Girl power should not be underestimated (YAKIN!). Melancholy still catches up with me from time to time.. but like I keep telling my other girlfriends who are going through the same thing; deal with the raw emotions, no matter how painful, but don't hang on to it. Let go, get out there, meet people and move on.. but don't go looking for a new love that will replace the gaping hole in your heart - that's just a recipe for disaster. You cant replace one with the other, but you can open yourself up to something new, something with the potential to turn into something so beautiful, it takes your breath away each time, but don't be in any rush. Take the time to learn to love yourself first, and everything else will follow. Just remember.. "Sometimes good things fall apart, so better things can fall together."
Agree much? :)
Dos: 2010
17 DAYS to be exact before we "level-up" our age? OMGAT.Yes.25.You heard me.25.
It seems, whichever direction I look, someone close to me is going through a tribulation of their own. For everyone's sake, I'm just begging for the end of this year to come.. we all need a clean slate, a fresh start. 2010 was a major year of fluctuation for moi (Work,$$$,HeartBreak, broken TRUST :( , Twinky and Beena's death :'( ) but I harbor no ill feelings( I still love you TIGER).. Sometimes we get so comfortable being the person we think the world wants us to be, we lose focus and become somebody else. We can go on for years thinking we are happy being that other person, and the disappointment in the end becomes almost unbearable, when you realize how much time you spent denying your soul to flourish, and choosing to imprison your emotions like a caged bird. By no means should we regret the time we have spent in search of ourselves, even if we steered off the obvious path.. everything serves its purpose in the end, and experience should not be regretted, but welcomed. You only have now, so take it and make it yours.
Tres: Girlfriends (Yes YOU :)
My circle of trust is hard rock solid these days, and they all contribute to being amazing distractions (been worrying too much about work work work). I can feel the love without having to hear it being said to me, or having it posted on my facebook wall. Its pure and old school and authentic, just the way I like it. I'm lucky despite all my troubles, and I'm happy despite the pain..(come what may.be it "me and my heart we got issues".OR someone is just being a pain in the ass) its really an oddly satisfying feeling, having your eyes wide open despite sitting in the middle of a tornado. Buckle up and just go with it, you cant stop a storm, so you might as well learn how to survive one.
Cuatro: FINALE.
Again.My attempts of LIVING LIFE TO THE FULLEST failed me this year.Thats because i have not tried hard enough. 2011, be good to US ?:)
So the conclusion to the lessons I have reluctantly learned in the past 11 months plus are going to be a jump off point for my new years resolution.
List of Dos,Donts and whatnots for year 2011 :)
When you love someone, tell them. You might never get a chance to do so again.
When you are angry, express yourself. Write a letter, speak to friends. But don't accuse blindly, don't let your insecurities get the best of you. You might make a mistake you can never undo again.
When you are sad, don't be afraid of it. Emotions are what make us human, and happy or sad, we should never deny ourselves what we are feeling.
Cry. It cleanses the soul.
Write. Even if its only to yourself.
Don't take anything for granted. Nothing in life is permanent. Don't wait until you lose something or someone before you realize how much it/they meant to you.
Stop judging others for their mistakes. Work on correcting yours.
Enjoy what you have and share it. Everything in life is even better when you can share it with someone, anyone.
Forgive those who have wronged you. If you harbor grudges, you are only hurting yourself. There is nothing you cant forgive.
Laugh. Even if this means indulging in a corny spoof movie or getting drunk and laughing with your friends. Its the ultimate band aid for the heart.
Be honest. With others and yourself. The truth might hurt for now, but a lie can ruin your life.
Dream. Dream big. And don't ever let anyone convince you that you cant have what you dream to have. Only you know that. You have to believe you can achieve something, or you might as well stop dreaming altogether.
Don't take anything too seriously. Everything will pass eventually.
Love your family. Blood is thicker than water and they will love you even when the whole world turns their back on you.
And lastly, and most importantly, learn to love yourself.
Nobody is perfect, and nobody will ever be perfect. You can only be the best you that you can be. Don't try to be someone else, don't envy someone for what they have that you don't. Look in the mirror and see the good, dismiss the bad. Don't be so hard on yourself.. learn so you don't make the same mistakes again. And if you do, try again. You have the rest of your life to better yourself, you owe it to yourself to at least try. In the end, we only have one life.. if you're going to live it, live it like you mean it.
Love,
R
*excerpts from a FASHION blog
But, really?You think its better that way?
Uno: Let Go or Lets Go? :)
Lately I have been spending a lot of my time with MY girls (YES, thats how PRECIOUS you girls are to me)(Tuaran,Suxx Alam, KL, Upperstar,Kudat,Frenz,Yoyo,Rombengan,Lunch dates,bbq..and the list continues) picking apart the lessons life has taught us.. I'm sure they are sick of hearing about my issues, but they continue to stand by me and listen to my incessant and probably pointless rantings - after all, they are quite possibly the most amazing bunch of females in my life. Girl power should not be underestimated (YAKIN!). Melancholy still catches up with me from time to time.. but like I keep telling my other girlfriends who are going through the same thing; deal with the raw emotions, no matter how painful, but don't hang on to it. Let go, get out there, meet people and move on.. but don't go looking for a new love that will replace the gaping hole in your heart - that's just a recipe for disaster. You cant replace one with the other, but you can open yourself up to something new, something with the potential to turn into something so beautiful, it takes your breath away each time, but don't be in any rush. Take the time to learn to love yourself first, and everything else will follow. Just remember.. "Sometimes good things fall apart, so better things can fall together."
Agree much? :)
Dos: 2010
17 DAYS to be exact before we "level-up" our age? OMGAT.Yes.25.You heard me.25.
It seems, whichever direction I look, someone close to me is going through a tribulation of their own. For everyone's sake, I'm just begging for the end of this year to come.. we all need a clean slate, a fresh start. 2010 was a major year of fluctuation for moi (Work,$$$,HeartBreak, broken TRUST :( , Twinky and Beena's death :'( ) but I harbor no ill feelings( I still love you TIGER).. Sometimes we get so comfortable being the person we think the world wants us to be, we lose focus and become somebody else. We can go on for years thinking we are happy being that other person, and the disappointment in the end becomes almost unbearable, when you realize how much time you spent denying your soul to flourish, and choosing to imprison your emotions like a caged bird. By no means should we regret the time we have spent in search of ourselves, even if we steered off the obvious path.. everything serves its purpose in the end, and experience should not be regretted, but welcomed. You only have now, so take it and make it yours.
Tres: Girlfriends (Yes YOU :)
My circle of trust is hard rock solid these days, and they all contribute to being amazing distractions (been worrying too much about work work work). I can feel the love without having to hear it being said to me, or having it posted on my facebook wall. Its pure and old school and authentic, just the way I like it. I'm lucky despite all my troubles, and I'm happy despite the pain..(come what may.be it "me and my heart we got issues".OR someone is just being a pain in the ass) its really an oddly satisfying feeling, having your eyes wide open despite sitting in the middle of a tornado. Buckle up and just go with it, you cant stop a storm, so you might as well learn how to survive one.
Cuatro: FINALE.
Again.My attempts of LIVING LIFE TO THE FULLEST failed me this year.Thats because i have not tried hard enough. 2011, be good to US ?:)
So the conclusion to the lessons I have reluctantly learned in the past 11 months plus are going to be a jump off point for my new years resolution.
List of Dos,Donts and whatnots for year 2011 :)
When you love someone, tell them. You might never get a chance to do so again.
When you are angry, express yourself. Write a letter, speak to friends. But don't accuse blindly, don't let your insecurities get the best of you. You might make a mistake you can never undo again.
When you are sad, don't be afraid of it. Emotions are what make us human, and happy or sad, we should never deny ourselves what we are feeling.
Cry. It cleanses the soul.
Write. Even if its only to yourself.
Don't take anything for granted. Nothing in life is permanent. Don't wait until you lose something or someone before you realize how much it/they meant to you.
Stop judging others for their mistakes. Work on correcting yours.
Enjoy what you have and share it. Everything in life is even better when you can share it with someone, anyone.
Forgive those who have wronged you. If you harbor grudges, you are only hurting yourself. There is nothing you cant forgive.
Laugh. Even if this means indulging in a corny spoof movie or getting drunk and laughing with your friends. Its the ultimate band aid for the heart.
Be honest. With others and yourself. The truth might hurt for now, but a lie can ruin your life.
Dream. Dream big. And don't ever let anyone convince you that you cant have what you dream to have. Only you know that. You have to believe you can achieve something, or you might as well stop dreaming altogether.
Don't take anything too seriously. Everything will pass eventually.
Love your family. Blood is thicker than water and they will love you even when the whole world turns their back on you.
And lastly, and most importantly, learn to love yourself.
Nobody is perfect, and nobody will ever be perfect. You can only be the best you that you can be. Don't try to be someone else, don't envy someone for what they have that you don't. Look in the mirror and see the good, dismiss the bad. Don't be so hard on yourself.. learn so you don't make the same mistakes again. And if you do, try again. You have the rest of your life to better yourself, you owe it to yourself to at least try. In the end, we only have one life.. if you're going to live it, live it like you mean it.
Love,
R
*excerpts from a FASHION blog
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